Dear Unemployed Milspouse
Dear unemployed milspouse,
Let me start by saying this letter is as much to myself as it is to my fellow unemployed milspouse. As I publish this I have been actively seeking employment (following a PCS) for 6 months.
It sucks. I know it sucks, you know it sucks, your husband probably knows it sucks.
Try to remember, you are not alone in this journey. I’m here with you, other military spouses are here with you, and even civilians are here with you. Military spouse unemployment is just like civilian trailing spouse unemployment. Lots of people move for their partners careers, we are all right here with you.
Furthermore, unemployment is a depressing reality for those starting out and career professionals like. It doesn’t discriminate against the old or the young. Or perhaps it discriminates against both. And yes, the grass is always greener on the other side.
When you’re young you wish you had more experience to help you get your foot in the door. You feel like you can’t start your career if no one takes a chance on you.
When you’re older you hope you aren’t considered wrongly qualified. You worry that your resume is too diverse or too specialized. You feel like you don’t fit the job specifications just right, and that you must step back and start over.
Either way, with each relocation comes a different labor market. Your skills may not be in demand. Your education may not be valued. Or you may not speak the local language. Try as they may, no career counselor can predict how everything plays out.
It’s hard to anticipate the change in your salary that results from relocation. It’s gut wrenching to acknowledge that your new income may be $0. That your husband may have to cover the expenses alone. The lack of stability in your income sucks. I know it sucks, you know it sucks, your husband probably knows it sucks.
There is good news. It’s your life and you still have choices!
You can decide that working is important no matter what the job. Or you can decide that it’s the right time to volunteer and give back. Or you can decide to trade in your car and downsize your expenses.
If you’re a spiritual person then you might embrace that this is god’s plan. God’s plan for you to stay home with your children. God’s plan to push you into continuing your education. Maybe it’s just god’s plan to teach you gratitude.
There are many life lessons to learn from your situation. I’d like to share with you what my father says to me. Regardless of what happens, what you’re doing is important. You’re a patriot. You’re a milspouse to the protectors of American liberties. You’re part of the American military family.
Regardless of what happens, what you’re doing is important. You’re a patriot.
You have sacrificed for America and that’s important. There is no recruiter, staffing agency, or hiring manager that should make you feel bad about this gap on your resume. Keep reworking your resume, keep submitting applications, and keep hustling your entrepreneurial ideas.
PS – Need a pick me up after this article? Check out the adulting miracles that I accomplished while unemployed.
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