30 Adulting Lessons I Learned Before 30
Between the ages of 22 and 30 I had a lot of hard knocks, and thus a lot of adulting lessons learned. To think that I thought I knew about the world when I went away to college at 18…What a joke.
Gather Round Twenty-Somethings, an Elder Millenial is Speaking
With all the bad press that millennials get, it took me a while to come to terms with the fact that I am part of the millennial generation.
I’ll be turning 31 in less than 2 months. So when I found this post I drafted before I turned 30 on adulting lessons I’ve learned… the timing to publish seemed prefect. All 30 are still just as relevant at 31 as they were at 30. And the adulting lessons on perseverance,
those are really from the heart I’ll forever feel those in my gut.
But before I start preaching, lets get the common sense ones out of the way.
Adulting Lessons That Go Without Saying:
- Knowing how to cook is a valuable life skill. Learn to feed yourself.
- Knowing how to clean and do laundry are valuable life skills.
Related Post: 4 Steps to a Cleaner Kitchen
Adulting Lessons Learned on That Diploma:
- A degree is an accomplishment.
- A degree doesn’t give you the right to feel you’re better than other people.
- If you get a “real” degree then you’re more likely to land a great job out of school. And the definition of a “real degree” is anything that will actually land you a great job out of school.
- Student loans are a bitch. Most college freshman fundamentally don’t understand how much money they are borrowing or the years they are committing to repayment.
Adulting Lessons Learned on That Corporate Job:
- Your job should allow for enough free time to have a life outside of work.
- A positive attitude in the absence of talent will get you little to nowhere. But a negative attitude can get you fired.
- Your first job might be the most money you make in your young career.
- It’s okay to work a soul crushing job because you like the money.
- It’s okay to quit a high paying job because it doesn’t suit you.
- Jobs are like boyfriends. You’re not married to them. Break up when you need a new one.
Adulting Lessons Learned on Finances:
- Don’t go into unnecessary debt.
- You are what you own…and your debt will own you.
- Just because some bank approved you for a loan for x, y, or z… Doesn’t mean you can actually afford x, y, or z.
Related Post: Minimalist Mindset, How to Get Out of the Rat Race
Adulting Lessons Learned on Friendships:
- You probably won’t know if you’re “good friends” with someone for years. The relationships that last will surprise you.
- Reconnecting with old friends may or may not be reciprocated.
- Most people’s lives look better on Facebook. If you want to follow everything that I care to post of Facebook…follow me here.
Adulting Lessons Learned on Romantic Relationships:
- The people you love won’t always love you in the way you need. If at all.
- Don’t wait for your partner to become someone else. Love them or leave them for who they are right now.
- Don’t stay with a person because you don’t believe you can do better.
- Be honest about what you want in a relationship.
- It’s okay to change your mind about what you want in a relationship.
- Use birth control and/or practice family planning. Having a child with someone can tie you to them for life. For better or for worse. A close friend once told me “children are the worst STD.”
Adulting Lessons Learned on Perseverance:
- Depression is real and crippling. Anyone who doesn’t understand that is lucky enough to have never been depressed.
- Bad things will happen to you in your life. They probably will define you. Figure out how to interpret these events so they have personal meaning.
- The best attitude to have is a gritty resilient one.
- You need to stand up for yourself. Don’t count on anyone else to do it for you.
- There are places where you just won’t fit in. Feel free to leave them behind.
Final Thoughts on Adulting Lessons I Learned Before 30:
- Figure out if you need to explain yourself before you start explaining yourself.
- Traveling can give you perspective.
- Turning 25 is worse than turning 30.
PLEASE COMMENT BELOW!
Did any of these adulting life lessons hit home with you?
What have you learned that I haven’t?